Is Two Not Enough?

It was my sons sixth birthday party on Saturday and as usual it brings round a whole load of emotions, my baby is growing up so fast etc etc.

My sons friend's mum bought her newborn baby (and fourth child) to the party, it was inevitable I would end up holding him.

I love babies and get all clucky around them, but that doesn't mean I am going to have any more, then come questions from said mum and the others who were there. You should have another one, when are going to have another one? Why not, you're still young!

Hold on a minute, I have two perfectly healthy children, one of each in fact! It was difficult a time to conceive those two without the worry of another.

Why do people feel it is OK to ask these questions, no one asked the 40 something year old mum if she would have another one, so what if I am only 31 that doesn't mean I need anymore.

For a start I couldn't fit them in the car, I certainly wouldn't be able to pick up the child of one of these other mums if I had 3!

I suffer with a terrible back and neck now and just 20 minutes holding that newborn left me in agony, I suffered with PND after my son and then had a miscarriage between him and my daughter so having another isn't really something I want to put myself through.

So why do people ask this question? It's so insensitive and cruel, yes I would love another baby but circumstance means I don't want to bring another child into this world.

And besides when has two become an unfashionable number of children to have?

Linking up to #MumdayMonday on DannyUk blog

4 comments:

  1. I couldn't agree more on this. Even with four kids, people would continually ask when we were planning another. Thanks for linking up :) #MumdayMonday

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  2. Goodmorning and I absolutely agree, we have 2 and there will be no more, it's a miracle that we have 2 healthy children and a healthy mum following 2 very difficult pregnancies and I am more than content with that. I always feel as if I have to justify our decision when others ask if there will be anymore!!! Great post, spotted you on #MumdayMonday

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  3. best to ignore, at the end of the day you know whats best for you and your family

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  4. Totally agree Ellie! You never know what's going on in another persons body or relationship no matter what appearances look like, so its safer not to offer your opinion, unless you're asked to of course!

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