Wednesday, 23 April 2014

Is Two Not Enough?

It was my sons sixth birthday party on Saturday and as usual it brings round a whole load of emotions, my baby is growing up so fast etc etc.

My sons friend's mum bought her newborn baby (and fourth child) to the party, it was inevitable I would end up holding him.

I love babies and get all clucky around them, but that doesn't mean I am going to have any more, then come questions from said mum and the others who were there. You should have another one, when are going to have another one? Why not, you're still young!

Hold on a minute, I have two perfectly healthy children, one of each in fact! It was difficult a time to conceive those two without the worry of another.

Why do people feel it is OK to ask these questions, no one asked the 40 something year old mum if she would have another one, so what if I am only 31 that doesn't mean I need anymore.

For a start I couldn't fit them in the car, I certainly wouldn't be able to pick up the child of one of these other mums if I had 3!

I suffer with a terrible back and neck now and just 20 minutes holding that newborn left me in agony, I suffered with PND after my son and then had a miscarriage between him and my daughter so having another isn't really something I want to put myself through.

So why do people ask this question? It's so insensitive and cruel, yes I would love another baby but circumstance means I don't want to bring another child into this world.

And besides when has two become an unfashionable number of children to have?

Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Finding a New Place to Scoot

My son got a new scooter for his birthday so after a quick search on the micro scooter website we found Blidworth Woods.

First we stopped to have a picnic and then off to look in the pond, we found lots of tadpoles.

Walking round the woodland in the sunshine was just what we needed after a  rather dreary Sunday. Spotting lot's of beautiful butterflies...

More scooting, looking at the fields of dandelions and looking to see if we can see any more tadpoles...

It was a really lovely few hours and my son was brilliant on his new scooter.

Linking up to Country Kids on Coombe Mill and Magic Moments on The Olivers Madhouse

Country Kids from Coombe Mill Family Farm Holidays Cornwall

Friday, 18 April 2014

Spring in the Garden

We were out in the garden the other night and I was snapping away at the children playing and then noticed how gorgeous all the flowers were so decided to snap a few, here is what I captured. Isn't nature beautiful!

Wednesday, 16 April 2014

Head Lice, Words Every Parent Dreads

Most weeks since the school started back in January have we had a letter advising that head lice are rife in school and we should be on the look out for them.

I have always used a Tea Tree or Lavender based shampoo on my son and thus far we have not had any.

However I am sure now i've said that out load it won't be long, there are so many treatments out there and although I haven't had to try them yet it is good to know about the ones that do exists and the methods you can use to get rid of them as well as preventing them.

This fab chart from Lyclear is really useful and has just about as much information as it is possible to cram onto a page, so I hope you find it as useful as I did.

PS Sorry if this has got you itching, just the thought of those little nasties gets me going.

NB: I have received no payment for this post, it was something that was of interest and I wanted to pass on to my readers :)

Monday, 14 April 2014

Mental Health and Me

Last week I spoke to someone from the Let's Talk team in Nottingham, having suffered with unexplained pain for the last 8-9 months it has taken it's toll. There is no fuse anymore not even a short one, I lose my temper over silly things quite quickly and worry about everything, from the bee on the floor dying to sending my son to school with a grape in case he chokes.

I have no idea why I am this way or have started with these fears and feelings, but something is obviously wrong so I have been referred for CBT (Cognitive Behaviroual Therapy).

I saw a counsellor when I was at school and after the birth of my son a Perinatal Mental Health Nurse came to see me to help me with my PND.

So I guess I am predisposed to mental health problems but what with the diagnosis of Fibromyalgia (although this is something that can never be 100% diagnosed) it has just gotten to much, thoughts and feelings that I shouldn't be having are there again.

Day's, although that is all they are, where the darkness sets in and I feel close the edge of a pit I know only too well.

Staring at the ever further away light at the end of the tunnel, but I know I need to be better for my children.

I used to use my blog to post about my feelings but it got a little like I was talking to myself, but maybe that is who I need to talk too.

More to come on my journey with some CBT and Fibromyalgia and if anyone has been through CBT I would love to hear more about whether it helped or not.